Ever find it hard to let your grown child make their own decisions? When we second guess their decisions, do we want control? Are we admitting that we didn’t teach them to make good decisions?
As mothers, we know that our child’s life will be a process of ongoing decision making. Our hope is that one day their life will be a positive reflection of all of the decisions they’ve made. When they are young, we make a lot of decisions for them. While making these decisions we are also modeling for them how to make their own good decisions.
When they leave home, we must recognize our child’s right to make their own decisions whether we are involved in the decision making process or not. It may be with a job, financial purchase, or future spouse.
The important thing isn’t whether we agree or disagree. It’s our reaction to the decision that matters. Our response can affect our relationship with our child. An unsupportive attitude may very well find us out of the loop and add undue stress on our child.
I’m so very fortunate to have a mother (I call my mom Lady) who allowed me to choose and limited her reactions to my choices. I know for a fact that she didn’t agree with all of my decisions in life but she didn’t treat me differently because of any of them. I appreciate her faith in not only me but in herself that she raised me right. Thanks Lady!
Be So Blessed!
Love,
Jobi
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My mother knows to only give advice after asking herself 2 questions. Did I ask for her opinion? Is it life threatening? If the answer is ‘no’, then she minds her own business. I am so thankful for her.